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Missy, who has been a very naughty girl and needs a spanking, writes to ask:

I have never tried anything regarding bondage with my husband. The only kinky thing my husband does to me is spank me, and lately I ask him to get rougher with me and he complies. However, my husband says it is difficult to spank me while going at it doggie style. Is there an easier way to spank me in this position? And, how can I subtly introduce more kink into the bedroom? Our sex life has become somewhat routine and I'd love to spark it up. Can you offer me any tips?

Thank you in advance,

If I am reading your e-mail correctly it sounds like the hubby is really not all that into the act of spanking you just for the sake of spanking you. Rather than just bending you over his knee and turning your ass bright read while you kick and squeal, he is willing to give you some good swats as long as his penis is being properly attended to. I must pause for a moment and tip my hat to him. He is at least willing to indulge you and try. That is more than a lot of partners are willing to do. So good for him, be sure to praise him for that.

I must agree that the “get up lil’ doggie” method of spanking is really not ideal for either party. While fun, His reach is really limited, as is the power of his strikes, and he really can’t hit you in the “sweet spot”, you know closer to the pink bits, but rather he is hitting more high and outside. Also I bet he is suffering from SDS syndrome too? You know, “Honey, please stop hitting the SAME DAMN SPOT!” Again, that limited reach and lack of targets are really an issue here, what you need to do is expose more of your “target area” to him (again, we are talking about your pink parts here) while giving his cock lots, and lots of attention.

Some options to think about.
1) You stay on your hands and knees and suck him off while he reaches around and spanks you. This might also be a good opportunity to introduce something like a riding crop or other “swatty” impact toy. That way he has all manner of targets to strike from a number of positions. I.e. him standing in front of you, or off to the side, or even propped up on pillows while you lay on his legs.

2) 69. Have him lay on his back while you straddle on top of him. In this position not only is his penis sufficiently distracted, but also he can enjoy a nibble on your pink bits as well. Also, this will allow him to use both hands to strike you. Let him experiment with that method. Both hands at once, back and forth in rapid succession, or perhaps the bongo solo from the surf classic “Wipe Out”?

3) Now this one will require a bit more flexibility and balance on your part. Have him sit in a chair with his legs open. You then lean over one knee and balance on one of your outside hand, forming a tripod with your legs. With your free hand, stroke his cock or if you are flexible, suck it. Again this one will take some stamina and flexibility on your part to work.


The big idea here is that you need to keep his cock nice and happy. He has yet to make the jump in his brain where the act of hurting you brings him pleasure so until then he needs to be given pleasure WHILE hurting you. If all goes well and you communicate your desire and need for this, as well as thank him for doing this to you… well who knows where it will go from there. I’m betting that, based on your energetic response to his actions, he will eventually put two and two together. The key here is small steps and LOTS of praise and reassurance.

Besides, most guys will do just about anything you ask in exchange for an energetic, wet, sloppy blow job with a porn star finish.